Living Alone in Quarantine
As we surpass a months’ time in quarantine, what was once the peaceful solitude of our home may begin to feel lonely and isolating, especially for those quarantined alone. However, being alone does not need to equate to feeling alone as we navigate this challenging time. Taking steps towards caring for our mental health can help stave off feelings of loneliness and create a sense of connection to ourselves, loved ones, and the community at large.
Here are a few coping skills that might help when you find yourself feeling lonely, or things you can do as routine to stave off loneliness:
Stay oriented to the present- taking things a day at a time helps us to stay present and prevents ruminative thoughts and anxiety about the future
Create a schedule- create a morning/evening routine, get dressed for the day, try to structure your day whether with work, calls with friends/family, going for an afternoon walk, etc
Move your body- engage in pleasurable workouts at home that provide a sense of joy and vitality and break up your day
Get outside - get fresh air, sit outside, or go for a walk
Make time for self-care- do what makes you feel good! Examples might include cooking, drinking tea, taking a bath, reading, writing, listening to music, art projects, puzzles/games, watching tv/movies
Practice gratitude- acknowledge/journal about a couple things each day that you feel grateful for
Connect with loved ones- call or video chat with friends and family daily
Reach out for support- reach out to family, friends, or your community at large for emotional support or to help acquire necessities
Like any emotion, the feeling of loneliness is a signal that we are experiencing a void in our lives. While we may need to be socially distant, we don’t have to feel disconnected. For those living alone, this shelter-in-place period can be very challenging, and can also be an opportunity to learn, or reconnect with, enjoying one’s own company. It is also an opportunity to prioritize connecting with friends and loved ones. Scheduling daily phone calls or Facetime chats can go a long way in maintaining relationships. Calling on neighbors and chatting at social distance in the front yard can maintain ties to your community, as can walking around the block and waving to other people enjoying some outdoor time. Remember that there is no “perfect” way to cope. What works for others may not be what works for you. Self-compassion is key in alleviating feelings of isolation and fostering gratitude. We are all in this together, apart.